Transition Yourself

Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place.  So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone,  if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

-Blaque Butterfly

Change is good, right???

I’m sure you’ve heard people say “change is good”, I know I have. My question is how do you cope with change? At many points in our lives we are going to experience a shift or a change. Some are easy to accept, and move forward, while others really just have you questioning yourself. You wonder why the change occurred? is this going to be beneficial or detrimental to your life? How do you move forward with change? I find myself at this point today. I know why things have shifted the way they have, but it doesn’t mean I like it. Sometimes in order to move forward in your life you have to accept that with change comes a multitude of emotions and feelings. But after you’ve gone through all the back and forth of how and why, you will realize that you are still here. You are still surviving and moving another step forward. Everyday will not be easy, but the fact is you made it to the next day. It could be a good day, or it may be rougher than the one before but you are here. It’s all about finding the strength to keep moving towards your future. Sometimes change is temporary, other times permanent, but what I am learning is that how you handle the changes in your life determine there outcome. Some changes are necessary whether we realize it or not, and most of the time they occur to teach you a lesson-to prove to yourself just how strong you are. So today I am going to focus on my personal strength. I’m going to work on acceptance, and coping, and try my best to see the positive in the big shift. Find the positive in your change….among the negatives, there’s a positive outcome somewhere.

-Blaque Butterfly

Don’t Forget to Smile :-)

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Good afternoon…I hope everyone’s week is going well so far. I just wanted to take some time out to say that I know life isn’t always easy, and some days are better than others. But one thing I’ve learned to do over time is look for the positive in every negative situation, and smile anyway. Every situation that you face in your life, happens for a reason.  At the time you may not understand it, but in time you will. But during the storms and the difficult times, don’t let the negative get the best of you. Sometimes it’s hard to not get sad or discouraged, but look at your life and find some beauty somewhere. Find something that brings you joy, and focus on that. Take life on, don’t let life defeat you. Be strong, and remain encouraged in knowing that storms never last long. It’s just like a stormy summer day, the rain pours down heavily, but just a few minutes later the sun peeks out and shines again.  I hope this is encouraging to someone.

***Smile through your storms***

-Blaque Butterfly

Momcation!!! (Mommy Vacation)

So I’ve decided to challenge myself to put aside $10-$15 a week, to save up for a mini mom-cation. Now as a mom, I know it can be very hard to get that few moments to yourself, but its VERY important. Even if you don’t get a whole day or weekend to yourself, still save up for something that is just for you. You are a mom and with that role comes many duties and responsibilities, so why not reward yourself? You work hard, you definitely deserve it.  Put a few dollars aside every week or every couple of weeks, to get your nails done, buy a new outfit, go to the spa, take a class or take an overnight trip. This is a great way to practice saving, and at the same time feel good knowing that you are working towards a goal. Remember you have everyone depending on you, but if you don’t take care of you, you are no good to the ones you love.

If you are interested in saving for a mom-cation, comment and lets see how far we get. In a few weeks I will post a follow up of how its going.

***There’s nothing wrong with “me” time…make YOU a priority***

Good luck everyone, and thanks for reading 🙂

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