Let It Go

In life everyone experiences good and bad times. Life is not a smooth road, there are struggles and obstacles, ups and downs. As the holidays are approaching, and the year is coming to an end, I find myself reflecting. While reflecting the point that came to my mind was ‘let it go’. So many times we hold onto disappointments, failures, betrayal, sadness, grief and so much more. What you don’t realize at the time is that you are sabotaging yourself. If the negative moments do not change you as a person, if it does not affect your character and who you are LET IT GO. First off, never give anyone or anything the power to change you or break your spirit and character. You can change you, but no one else. Don’t allow hurt or failures to keep you from moving forward…don’t stay stagnant. The way to move on from the past is to keep pushing ahead. If you are stuck at a negative point, keep moving and look ahead because it does get better. If you are focusing on things you can’t change LET IT GO. What has been has already been, what has happened has already happened. In life we can’t change what has already taken place, but we can control what happens next. You deserve a happy life, and most of all peace. In order to gain your peace you have got to let go of whatever is holding you back from your future. When we continue to focus on the past we miss out on the greatness that is to come. If you can’t change it, leave it behind and keep pushing. No matter what mistakes you have made, or who let you down, everyone deserves to be happy and at peace. Take these last weeks of 2015 to reflect, create a plan of action, and let the past go. Enter 2016 with a positive outlook on your future, and a clean slate on life.

 

Save some “you” for you…

Throughout life we meet many different types of people. Once in awhile you find someone or some people that you connect with on a deeper level, whether it be as a friendship or romantic relationship. If it is a genuine one, you will hold those people close to you, and to an extent go above and beyond for them. The problem with this is that many times we give so much of ourselves to others, that we neglect ourselves. It gets to a point where others’ well being is more of a priority than our own. It is important to step back every once in awhile, and really look at your life and see if you are making decisions that suit you.  Its easy to get wrapped in the role of best friend, gf/bf, spouse etc…so much so that you put your desires on hold or tell yourself you’ll do it later. Later may be too late. You have to keep yourself #1 no matter what. Because the sad truth is that everyone won’t always treat you the way you do them, or be there for you as you are for them. Be genuine, but remember your needs as well.

Transition Yourself

Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place.  So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone,  if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

-Blaque Butterfly

Change is good, right???

I’m sure you’ve heard people say “change is good”, I know I have. My question is how do you cope with change? At many points in our lives we are going to experience a shift or a change. Some are easy to accept, and move forward, while others really just have you questioning yourself. You wonder why the change occurred? is this going to be beneficial or detrimental to your life? How do you move forward with change? I find myself at this point today. I know why things have shifted the way they have, but it doesn’t mean I like it. Sometimes in order to move forward in your life you have to accept that with change comes a multitude of emotions and feelings. But after you’ve gone through all the back and forth of how and why, you will realize that you are still here. You are still surviving and moving another step forward. Everyday will not be easy, but the fact is you made it to the next day. It could be a good day, or it may be rougher than the one before but you are here. It’s all about finding the strength to keep moving towards your future. Sometimes change is temporary, other times permanent, but what I am learning is that how you handle the changes in your life determine there outcome. Some changes are necessary whether we realize it or not, and most of the time they occur to teach you a lesson-to prove to yourself just how strong you are. So today I am going to focus on my personal strength. I’m going to work on acceptance, and coping, and try my best to see the positive in the big shift. Find the positive in your change….among the negatives, there’s a positive outcome somewhere.

-Blaque Butterfly

Don’t Forget to Smile :-)

sunshine

Good afternoon…I hope everyone’s week is going well so far. I just wanted to take some time out to say that I know life isn’t always easy, and some days are better than others. But one thing I’ve learned to do over time is look for the positive in every negative situation, and smile anyway. Every situation that you face in your life, happens for a reason.  At the time you may not understand it, but in time you will. But during the storms and the difficult times, don’t let the negative get the best of you. Sometimes it’s hard to not get sad or discouraged, but look at your life and find some beauty somewhere. Find something that brings you joy, and focus on that. Take life on, don’t let life defeat you. Be strong, and remain encouraged in knowing that storms never last long. It’s just like a stormy summer day, the rain pours down heavily, but just a few minutes later the sun peeks out and shines again.  I hope this is encouraging to someone.

***Smile through your storms***

-Blaque Butterfly

Welcome to my world

Hello my  name is Blaque Butterfly and I’ve always had a passion for written expression. I decided to start this blog to just express my feelings and experience about my life. Often times we need an outlet to vent or just share our creativity and this is what I’ve chosen. First off I wear many hats in my life. I am wife, a mother of 6, and a college student…I know what you’re thinking WHAT?!? 6 kids? yes. Growing up as an only child I’ve seen how lonely it can be, and I just want my kids to always have that support system and bond with their siblings, as well as the friends they make in life. So on my blog you will read about relationships, parenting, balancing school and family, and of course everyday things such as fashion, entertainment, travel ideas etc… Like I said there’s a little of everything going on in my life and I just want share with others.