Let It Go

In life everyone experiences good and bad times. Life is not a smooth road, there are struggles and obstacles, ups and downs. As the holidays are approaching, and the year is coming to an end, I find myself reflecting. While reflecting the point that came to my mind was ‘let it go’. So many times we hold onto disappointments, failures, betrayal, sadness, grief and so much more. What you don’t realize at the time is that you are sabotaging yourself. If the negative moments do not change you as a person, if it does not affect your character and who you are LET IT GO. First off, never give anyone or anything the power to change you or break your spirit and character. You can change you, but no one else. Don’t allow hurt or failures to keep you from moving forward…don’t stay stagnant. The way to move on from the past is to keep pushing ahead. If you are stuck at a negative point, keep moving and look ahead because it does get better. If you are focusing on things you can’t change LET IT GO. What has been has already been, what has happened has already happened. In life we can’t change what has already taken place, but we can control what happens next. You deserve a happy life, and most of all peace. In order to gain your peace you have got to let go of whatever is holding you back from your future. When we continue to focus on the past we miss out on the greatness that is to come. If you can’t change it, leave it behind and keep pushing. No matter what mistakes you have made, or who let you down, everyone deserves to be happy and at peace. Take these last weeks of 2015 to reflect, create a plan of action, and let the past go. Enter 2016 with a positive outlook on your future, and a clean slate on life.

 

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Transition Yourself

Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place.  So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone,  if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

-Blaque Butterfly

You’re in this season for a reason

As I am getting older, I am learning that everything happens for a reason. Many times we are taken through trials and tribulations in our lives to bring us clarity, and prepare us for a new level that is to come. Don’t ever hesitate or be afraid to transition to a new chapter in your life. Everything you have faced, and overcome was for a specific reason, whether you realized it or not. God will never take you through anything that serves no purpose. Every season in your life was strategically set up to prepare you for greatness. Even though you may feel as though you are living in hell right now, you’re still here-you’re still surviving. You are not pushing through the storm for nothing…something great is about to happen, and if you can just stand the storm just a little while longer, you will see it for yourself. Take a second and think back on a hard time in  your life…now think of what occurred after you made it through. Something positive came from that negative moment, and it always will. Somehow you’re life changed for the better, you changed for the better. Don’t be afraid to reach your destiny, no matter how tough the climb may seem. It’s yours and if you just push through greatness will be waiting.

Don’t Forget to Smile :-)

sunshine

Good afternoon…I hope everyone’s week is going well so far. I just wanted to take some time out to say that I know life isn’t always easy, and some days are better than others. But one thing I’ve learned to do over time is look for the positive in every negative situation, and smile anyway. Every situation that you face in your life, happens for a reason.  At the time you may not understand it, but in time you will. But during the storms and the difficult times, don’t let the negative get the best of you. Sometimes it’s hard to not get sad or discouraged, but look at your life and find some beauty somewhere. Find something that brings you joy, and focus on that. Take life on, don’t let life defeat you. Be strong, and remain encouraged in knowing that storms never last long. It’s just like a stormy summer day, the rain pours down heavily, but just a few minutes later the sun peeks out and shines again.  I hope this is encouraging to someone.

***Smile through your storms***

-Blaque Butterfly

Positive thinking furthers Successful Possibilities

Good Afternoon….I wanted to post something inspiring today. I wanted to emphasize the importance of positive thinking. Many times we look at situations in our lives and we focus on the negatives-the what could have been, or what may be in the future. What we don’t realize is that we are wasting so much time and energy focusing on the negative, that we are missing the positive occurring at that moment. It is true that our minds can play tricks on us. If we wake up and think we are going to have a day, and we speak that out of our mouth, then we will indeed have a bad day. The idea is to speak positivity into our lives. When it seems like everything around us is falling apart, recognize the beauty in the things that are going right in our lives. It is hard to do sometimes, trust me I know, but it so important that we keep our focus.  When you put aside all the negative thinking, you begin to see a world of possibilities. As you begin to stay and focus on the positive, you will start to see greatness in your future and your current situation.  You will also feel less stressed and overwhelmed when you keep positivity in your life-this includes the people around you. Nobody wants to have a negative Nelly hanging around them. Surround yourself with people who inspire and motivate you. People who can push you further, when you’ve lost faith in yourself. And it may not be a group of people, it may just be one. But one positive person, is better than a group of negative individuals. So today find something beautiful and positive to dwell on and I promise you, you will have a successful and fulfilling day. 🙂