Transition Yourself

Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place.  So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone,  if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

-Blaque Butterfly

You’re in this season for a reason

As I am getting older, I am learning that everything happens for a reason. Many times we are taken through trials and tribulations in our lives to bring us clarity, and prepare us for a new level that is to come. Don’t ever hesitate or be afraid to transition to a new chapter in your life. Everything you have faced, and overcome was for a specific reason, whether you realized it or not. God will never take you through anything that serves no purpose. Every season in your life was strategically set up to prepare you for greatness. Even though you may feel as though you are living in hell right now, you’re still here-you’re still surviving. You are not pushing through the storm for nothing…something great is about to happen, and if you can just stand the storm just a little while longer, you will see it for yourself. Take a second and think back on a hard time in  your life…now think of what occurred after you made it through. Something positive came from that negative moment, and it always will. Somehow you’re life changed for the better, you changed for the better. Don’t be afraid to reach your destiny, no matter how tough the climb may seem. It’s yours and if you just push through greatness will be waiting.

Change is good, right???

I’m sure you’ve heard people say “change is good”, I know I have. My question is how do you cope with change? At many points in our lives we are going to experience a shift or a change. Some are easy to accept, and move forward, while others really just have you questioning yourself. You wonder why the change occurred? is this going to be beneficial or detrimental to your life? How do you move forward with change? I find myself at this point today. I know why things have shifted the way they have, but it doesn’t mean I like it. Sometimes in order to move forward in your life you have to accept that with change comes a multitude of emotions and feelings. But after you’ve gone through all the back and forth of how and why, you will realize that you are still here. You are still surviving and moving another step forward. Everyday will not be easy, but the fact is you made it to the next day. It could be a good day, or it may be rougher than the one before but you are here. It’s all about finding the strength to keep moving towards your future. Sometimes change is temporary, other times permanent, but what I am learning is that how you handle the changes in your life determine there outcome. Some changes are necessary whether we realize it or not, and most of the time they occur to teach you a lesson-to prove to yourself just how strong you are. So today I am going to focus on my personal strength. I’m going to work on acceptance, and coping, and try my best to see the positive in the big shift. Find the positive in your change….among the negatives, there’s a positive outcome somewhere.

-Blaque Butterfly