Let It Go

In life everyone experiences good and bad times. Life is not a smooth road, there are struggles and obstacles, ups and downs. As the holidays are approaching, and the year is coming to an end, I find myself reflecting. While reflecting the point that came to my mind was ‘let it go’. So many times we hold onto disappointments, failures, betrayal, sadness, grief and so much more. What you don’t realize at the time is that you are sabotaging yourself. If the negative moments do not change you as a person, if it does not affect your character and who you are LET IT GO. First off, never give anyone or anything the power to change you or break your spirit and character. You can change you, but no one else. Don’t allow hurt or failures to keep you from moving forward…don’t stay stagnant. The way to move on from the past is to keep pushing ahead. If you are stuck at a negative point, keep moving and look ahead because it does get better. If you are focusing on things you can’t change LET IT GO. What has been has already been, what has happened has already happened. In life we can’t change what has already taken place, but we can control what happens next. You deserve a happy life, and most of all peace. In order to gain your peace you have got to let go of whatever is holding you back from your future. When we continue to focus on the past we miss out on the greatness that is to come. If you can’t change it, leave it behind and keep pushing. No matter what mistakes you have made, or who let you down, everyone deserves to be happy and at peace. Take these last weeks of 2015 to reflect, create a plan of action, and let the past go. Enter 2016 with a positive outlook on your future, and a clean slate on life.

 

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Transition Yourself

Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place.  So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone,  if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

-Blaque Butterfly

Don’t Forget to Smile :-)

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Good afternoon…I hope everyone’s week is going well so far. I just wanted to take some time out to say that I know life isn’t always easy, and some days are better than others. But one thing I’ve learned to do over time is look for the positive in every negative situation, and smile anyway. Every situation that you face in your life, happens for a reason.  At the time you may not understand it, but in time you will. But during the storms and the difficult times, don’t let the negative get the best of you. Sometimes it’s hard to not get sad or discouraged, but look at your life and find some beauty somewhere. Find something that brings you joy, and focus on that. Take life on, don’t let life defeat you. Be strong, and remain encouraged in knowing that storms never last long. It’s just like a stormy summer day, the rain pours down heavily, but just a few minutes later the sun peeks out and shines again.  I hope this is encouraging to someone.

***Smile through your storms***

-Blaque Butterfly

Momcation!!! (Mommy Vacation)

So I’ve decided to challenge myself to put aside $10-$15 a week, to save up for a mini mom-cation. Now as a mom, I know it can be very hard to get that few moments to yourself, but its VERY important. Even if you don’t get a whole day or weekend to yourself, still save up for something that is just for you. You are a mom and with that role comes many duties and responsibilities, so why not reward yourself? You work hard, you definitely deserve it.  Put a few dollars aside every week or every couple of weeks, to get your nails done, buy a new outfit, go to the spa, take a class or take an overnight trip. This is a great way to practice saving, and at the same time feel good knowing that you are working towards a goal. Remember you have everyone depending on you, but if you don’t take care of you, you are no good to the ones you love.

If you are interested in saving for a mom-cation, comment and lets see how far we get. In a few weeks I will post a follow up of how its going.

***There’s nothing wrong with “me” time…make YOU a priority***

Good luck everyone, and thanks for reading 🙂

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I don’t call it terrible 2’s…it’s 2 year old madness!!!

So today it was another adventure in the world of a 2 year old. So during potty training time, my toddler took it upon herself to display her artistic skills around the house. And her choice of writing item? a SHARPIE!!! OMG…EVERY MOTHER’S NIGHTMARE. So after asking fellow moms, and googling for a solution online I tried hand sanitizer. To my surprise, it actually worked. So if you’re kid colors the walls with permanent marker, try hand sanitizer- it has an alcohol base and works fine. But before using this solution test it out in a small area to make sure that you are not removing paint from your surfaces. Well that was the highlight of my day, and I chose to share it all with you. Hope you’re day went a little smoother. Thanks for reading and check back for more posts. 🙂

-Blaque Butterfly

Kids just don’t know… Moms are superheroes we can see the future!!!

Today I’m posting with my mom hat on.  As a child, I never understood how my mom knew exactly what I was doing without physically being present or what I was going to do before I did it. I’ve finally figured it out, Moms are superheroes Duh!!! LOL. Kids today just don’t understand we are psychics. We know their thoughts, actions, and behaviors before they are even done! I can see through walls, I have eyes in the back of my head, and I can even predict the future. I’m better than Superman, Batman, Wonder Woman, and all my children’s favorite heroes. Unfortunately, not until they become parents will they FINALLY understand that they came from me, so they are me and I know EVERYTHING going on! Mommy moment #1000…just needed to get that out. If there are any mothers who can relate please feel free to comment and share.

Sincerely,

-Mom of 6