I have been thinking about writing this post for the last couple of days, and I’ve decided that I must do this. As an African-American woman, I can understand why there is such a HUGE uproar over the Oscar nominations snub. But I am very disheartened to see all the attention that the media is putting on this drama. I am someone who loves to listen to inspirational words, and follow celebrities who post motivational words of encouragement and so on. Recently, I had read about Jada Pinkett-Smith’s recent announcement that she would not be attending the Oscars this year, and Will Smith along with other black celebrities are standing by her in her stance. I’m all for it. But right now there is a crisis going on in Flint, Michigan. I feel that these celebrities need to use their notoriety and clout for something more…They already have the attention of the media, their voices are already out there, and being heard by so many. Instead of pushing this Oscar issue, and so-called trying to take a stance for injustice, they should use their clout, and even their finances to help those who REALLY are in a crisis. The need for recognition and acknowledgement for your skill in acting is SO mediocre right now. We can fight this battle at another time. People can lose their lives, children are sick and can be dying right now because they don’t have the luxury of something as simple as clean water to drink, cook, or bathe with. It’s time that those in the African-American community, who hold some power, use their celebrity for something more than just enhancing their bank accounts. Instead of wasting time and energy on the Oscar situation put it towards something that will matter and better the lives of others. Okay, so the Smiths are not going to the Oscars-that’s been well established. Take that day, and those before to go deliver water to these people who are in need of assistance. Go be with these families, and let them know that they are not forgotten. It is sickening to believe that something as simple as an award, gets more attention than human beings who are suffering from the lack of a natural resource, that we all have rights to. At this moment, the attention of many is misplaced. It’s time to come together for a real reason, not just for fame. But to really do something that would benefit others, even if they are not in the same pay bracket or social class. I really pray and hope that the residents of Flint, Michigan get the assistance they need, and that we as a people will stop glorifying the issues that seem so insignificant, in comparison to what is REALLY going on in our society.
In life everyone experiences good and bad times. Life is not a smooth road, there are struggles and obstacles, ups and downs. As the holidays are approaching, and the year is coming to an end, I find myself reflecting. While reflecting the point that came to my mind was ‘let it go’. So many times we hold onto disappointments, failures, betrayal, sadness, grief and so much more. What you don’t realize at the time is that you are sabotaging yourself. If the negative moments do not change you as a person, if it does not affect your character and who you are LET IT GO. First off, never give anyone or anything the power to change you or break your spirit and character. You can change you, but no one else. Don’t allow hurt or failures to keep you from moving forward…don’t stay stagnant. The way to move on from the past is to keep pushing ahead. If you are stuck at a negative point, keep moving and look ahead because it does get better. If you are focusing on things you can’t change LET IT GO. What has been has already been, what has happened has already happened. In life we can’t change what has already taken place, but we can control what happens next. You deserve a happy life, and most of all peace. In order to gain your peace you have got to let go of whatever is holding you back from your future. When we continue to focus on the past we miss out on the greatness that is to come. If you can’t change it, leave it behind and keep pushing. No matter what mistakes you have made, or who let you down, everyone deserves to be happy and at peace. Take these last weeks of 2015 to reflect, create a plan of action, and let the past go. Enter 2016 with a positive outlook on your future, and a clean slate on life.
Throughout life we meet many different types of people. Once in awhile you find someone or some people that you connect with on a deeper level, whether it be as a friendship or romantic relationship. If it is a genuine one, you will hold those people close to you, and to an extent go above and beyond for them. The problem with this is that many times we give so much of ourselves to others, that we neglect ourselves. It gets to a point where others’ well being is more of a priority than our own. It is important to step back every once in awhile, and really look at your life and see if you are making decisions that suit you. Its easy to get wrapped in the role of best friend, gf/bf, spouse etc…so much so that you put your desires on hold or tell yourself you’ll do it later. Later may be too late. You have to keep yourself #1 no matter what. Because the sad truth is that everyone won’t always treat you the way you do them, or be there for you as you are for them. Be genuine, but remember your needs as well.
Hello readers I know it has been awhile since my last post. But like many of you my children have started back to school, and now more activities are added onto an already busy schedule. Nevertheless, I have been thinking on some topics for my blog and today’s is how to transition yourself. As parents we take on so many roles on a daily basis, and many times they cross with one another. I’m a wife, mother, student, friend etc… and it’s a juggling act. But over the last few weeks what I have come to realize is that no matter where we are in our lives, no matter how stable or chaotic situations around us get,we are all in a transition to another level. Maybe your family is experiencing a new move or your family structure has changed. The fact is that although the changes affect everyone around you, you are still going to experience a personal transition. When you are in a new situation, you have to look at it from a standpoint of “how will this affect me?” “what am I going to learn from this new place in my life?”. As I mentioned before, as a mother and a wife, you have to scope things out for the effects that the situation will take on everyone, but you must also account for your own feelings as well. Each changing point is preparing you for a new level. Although it may not seem beneficial at times, and it seems like its too hard to bear,there is a personal growth taking place. So we have to learn to step back and look at the situations for what they are, and find a benefit for ourselves. Learn something new about yourself, or set a goal that you want to achieve while you are at this stage in your life. There is nothing wrong with wanting better for your family and loved ones, but you cannot forget yourself. As women we bear a lot for those we love, and for the most part it is without complaint. But even in the midst of our daily lives, we need to strive to better ourselves as well. Find our transitioning point, because ultimately that will make us better at who we are and what we do. Remember you are no good to anyone, if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.
Hello everyone its been awhile since I’ve posted but I’m back! This has been one of the most pressing weeks for me but somehow I’m making it. I know everyone believes in different things…God, the stars, Buddha…whomever or whatever you believe in hold fast to it. I haven’t been feeling so well the last few days but a moment ago I had to stop and just smile. Sometimes, you have to just stop the worrying and the stressing, and just take a second to reflect. I know that everything may not be working the way I feel they should, but I’m still blessed anyway. I realize that even when I’m at my lowest I’m still on top. I woke up this morning to six beautiful angels. If that doesn’t make you smile, I don’t know what can. I say that to say that it could be worse. Some people go through life alone, with no one in their life but I have my beautiful children who are keeping me going. As parents we can’t stop. No matter how tough life gets, they are the reason we keep moving, and doing our best to be our best selves. This morning I truly thank God for my children-my motivation. In the midst of it all, I still have so many reasons to smile. So no matter what you’re worried about right now, or whatever has you down take a minute and reflect on all the things that are working out for you. It may not be much, but be grateful anyway.
As I am getting older, I am learning that everything happens for a reason. Many times we are taken through trials and tribulations in our lives to bring us clarity, and prepare us for a new level that is to come. Don’t ever hesitate or be afraid to transition to a new chapter in your life. Everything you have faced, and overcome was for a specific reason, whether you realized it or not. God will never take you through anything that serves no purpose. Every season in your life was strategically set up to prepare you for greatness. Even though you may feel as though you are living in hell right now, you’re still here-you’re still surviving. You are not pushing through the storm for nothing…something great is about to happen, and if you can just stand the storm just a little while longer, you will see it for yourself. Take a second and think back on a hard time in your life…now think of what occurred after you made it through. Something positive came from that negative moment, and it always will. Somehow you’re life changed for the better, you changed for the better. Don’t be afraid to reach your destiny, no matter how tough the climb may seem. It’s yours and if you just push through greatness will be waiting.
I’m sure you’ve heard people say “change is good”, I know I have. My question is how do you cope with change? At many points in our lives we are going to experience a shift or a change. Some are easy to accept, and move forward, while others really just have you questioning yourself. You wonder why the change occurred? is this going to be beneficial or detrimental to your life? How do you move forward with change? I find myself at this point today. I know why things have shifted the way they have, but it doesn’t mean I like it. Sometimes in order to move forward in your life you have to accept that with change comes a multitude of emotions and feelings. But after you’ve gone through all the back and forth of how and why, you will realize that you are still here. You are still surviving and moving another step forward. Everyday will not be easy, but the fact is you made it to the next day. It could be a good day, or it may be rougher than the one before but you are here. It’s all about finding the strength to keep moving towards your future. Sometimes change is temporary, other times permanent, but what I am learning is that how you handle the changes in your life determine there outcome. Some changes are necessary whether we realize it or not, and most of the time they occur to teach you a lesson-to prove to yourself just how strong you are. So today I am going to focus on my personal strength. I’m going to work on acceptance, and coping, and try my best to see the positive in the big shift. Find the positive in your change….among the negatives, there’s a positive outcome somewhere.